The Good News About Men: We Know the Importance of Courtesy

Jul 2, 2018Good News About Being a Man, Latest, Pro Victoria

We are looking a lot at cowboys, recently.

If you’re reading our series on The Biggest Obstacle to Authentic Masculinity, cowboys provide another clue to what that Biggest Obstacle is. The traditional American Cowboy—in American myth as well as in reality– definitely is NOT guilty of The Biggest Obstacle to Authentic Masculinity. When something happens to him he responds with forcefulness and humor and he perseveres. People who find fault with American movie depictions of cowboys miss the point. The Cowboy represents an American ideal. He has a code, as we saw last week. He asserts himself. He is moral. And… he is willing to use violence when he thinks it is appropriate and called for.

“It ain’t much of a crime, whackin’ a surly bartender.”

Here’s a great clip from a very instructive television miniseries, “Lonesome Dove.” It’s a great scene from a great series. Two aging Texas Rangers have returned to a town of their younger days. They enter a bar and are treated rudely. They respond with decisive, clear-headed, unemotional violence. It’s a perfect response.

We think you’ll agree. Enjoy:

If more men called each other, “Sir,” the world would be a more peaceful place.

Try this—it takes a little courage. The next time you are leaving a store and a man is exiting behind you, hold the door for him. He will say, “Thank you.” Say, “Yes, sir, you would do the same for me.” When he responds, say this, and take your time: “I believe if more men called each other sir, the world would be a better place.” Be confident and say it like you mean it. He will respond positively and you will both have better days.

Men know courtesy matters. Men know respect matters.

We live in an increasingly discourteous age. If you want to make a difference right now, begin to treat others with respect. They will return the compliment. It’s universal and it’s masculine.

Be bold, be authentic, be masculine.

Shannon McGurk

Shannon McGurk


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