What’s the Difference Between Blame, Fault and Responsibility?

Aug 24, 2018Latest, Pro Victoria

Sort this out. It’s important.

Taking responsibility means deciding to be held accountable. Each one of us must do this as men.

Agreeing to be at fault is taking responsibility for a failure. Or, more seriously, a wrongful act. Fixing fault on someone else is acting as a judge. Sometimes we, as men, are called to act as judges, but that is a very specific role we must fulfill. It’s a heavy responsibility. More on that later.

Blaming is finding fault with someone and is never good. It also violates one of AM’s core principles, never to criticize, condemn or complain.

Sometimes we blame ourselves. Blaming is weak. Blaming is unmanly. Blame is judgmental and points the finger. Now that is truly toxic masculinity. But remember, we mustn’t fall into that trap laid by our enemies, either, the trap of what they call Toxic Masculinity. If it’s toxic, it’s not masculine. The masculine is good, and strong, and gentle. The masculine is under control, not childish, and it certainly doesn’t refer to a man who blames others for anything. Moreover, it’s a kind of theft to take blame because that means others don’t benefit from taking responsibility for what is theirs to shoulder. This is difficult to sort out, but very much worthwhile.

Take a minute to watch this video and think about it in light of these three concepts. WARNING: Strong language and adult content, but worthwhile lessons. Who takes responsibility in this scene and how? When the scene is over, who respects who?

You can choose to accept responsibility for everything in your life without being at fault and without taking blame. Take responsibility and your ability to manage your life increases according to your will.

But it’s like riding a bike. You can learn, but nobody can teach you. You must do it and work through it and sometimes it’s painful. We challenge you to do it now:

Decide today to take responsibility for everything in your life. Radical responsibility. This means that whatever happens to you is your responsibility. Not your fault, certainly, and you are not to blame for anything. Here’s why: when we take responsibility for as much as we can, we encourage others by our example to do the same.

So, do you think you’re closing in on that big obstacle to Authentic Masculinity? Let us know your thoughts or questions on all this at our Facebook group, here.

Shannon McGurk

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